A few months ago, I took a class on relationship abuse and feel it is a topic that we so often shy away from or do not recognize. It is startling to consider that statistically, 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men will experience relationship abuse in their lifetime. I was fortunate enough to recognize the signs of an unhealthy relationship about six months in and was able to extricate myself. My former partner proceeded to use stalking tactics to intimidate me, but a threat of a restraining order was enough to discourage further contact.
Warning signs of an unhealthy relationship are always there, but they often go unnamed or misrepresented as crazy, or drama or too much drinking. In an effort to educate, I will cover a bit of what I learned in my class.
Five signs to differentiate between healthy and unhealthy relationships:
When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you have become so conditioned that this relationship is normal, that you may not even realize how unhealthy your relationship has become. It can be hard to see when unhealthy love turns towards abuse.
If your instinct is to break up and leave, then make sure you have support. Timing of breakups can lead to violence and abuse. Consult with an expert on how to leave safely.
Understanding the signs of unhealthy love can help you audit every relationship in your life. You might even see these signs in yourself and you can seek the help you need to change these behaviors.
Understanding is the first step to improving. While you can’t make every unhealthy relationship healthy, you can do your part every day to do relationships better.
We can practice Open communication, Mutual respect, Kindness, and Patience every day. Practice will make you better – not perfect. You are human after all.
Relationship skills are one of the most important and hard to build things in life.
Understanding unhealthy signs can help you avoid the trap of unhealthy love.
But understanding and practicing the art of being healthy can improve nearly every aspect of your life.